Wife seeking sex NJ Andover 7821 Seeking Temporary Bellhop for My Sexual Baggage About a year ago I ended a relationship. The problem is not that the relationship ended, it's what happened during the relationship. He stripped me of my sexual autonomy, and didn't believe in my right to say no (he believed that once in a relationship, sex is a right that men have, and a woman saying no for any reason was stripping him of his own sexual rights). There was nothing forceful about anything, it was just . . . persistence. If I would say no, he would just ignore me, and continue what he was doing until I finally would let him have his way, rather than turn it into a fight to get him to stop. He was also uninterested in my own pleasure, except as currency to get something he wanted. Foreplay was nonexistent, and when I did finally get him to realize I needed to be more than just a for his dick, any touching was perfunctory and impatient. If he did get me to cum, he considered that a pass to ignore my needs the next time around. In fact, one of the last times we had sex, he had given me an orgasm the night before, and because of that, assumed the next morning that he could take me the next morning with not only no foreplay, but without even checking to see if I was interested and willing. He just rolled me over and put it in me. When I told him that was unacceptable, he protested that he thought it was ok because he had made me cum the night before. In the beginning, I'd have to masturbate myself to orgasm after he was done. Instead of seeing that as a problem, he decided that was hot. I was responsible for his pleasure and my own. After awhile, I just stopped getting turned on when we were . The misery of the part of our relationship had a huge affect on the rest of our relationship, and on me. I started drinking a lot more than usual (and a lot more than ), and gained a LOT of weight, that I still haven't been able to dump. If you're wondering why I stayed as long as I did, it was because I knew him for a long time before things turned "romantic", and it took me a long time to accept that this wasn't some weird aberration stemming from his general inexperience that could be worked out, that this was just who he is -- he honestly believed that women don't need to enjoy sex, that it's something they're just happy to do for men. My attempts to educate him otherwise left him feeling, in his words, "unloved" and "attacked". He even tried to get me to see a psychologist, because apparently he thought my desire to not be treated like a living blowup doll indicated some mental defect on my part. Even when I ended the relationship, he firmly believed I was the problem, not him. So that's my baggage. Over the last year, I've had sex a few times, but they have been awkward, uncomfortable experiences. I can't relax in bed anymore, I'm tense and unable to orgasm (because part of me assumes that if I allow myself to enjoy it, I'll get turned on and then left hanging, as before.) Sex has stopped being fun, and I want to get over that. I guess I'm thinking if I can find someone who is aware of the issue, and patient and giving in bed, I can work past this newly develop sexual hangup, and get back to enjoying sex. If nothing else, it kinda feels good to have vented this (my friends and family would never have believed that he would do what he did to me.) I'm not looking to anything, and I definitely want to meet someone that I can laugh and relax with socially, as that will help me relax in the bedroom. So if you're a guy who enjoys putting a woman first in bed, doesn't need or want commitment, doesn't mind being patient and careful, and would enjoy knowing that you were able to dole out some sexual healing, and willing to move on when it's over with no drama, then maybe we can have fun together. I'm 5'6", 220lbs, Caucasian with -brown hair. for (face only) Also, I absolutely cannot host, and I work two jobs, so I don't have time to travel more than 15/20 minutes for "dates". friend with benefits in Mount Prospect village I think space exploration is a worthwhile endeavor. Mostly I want to address the population question: This is not my idea, but I like it. It's also super unlikely to be developed or implemented, and refers more to first world countries. We put something in the water to make the population sterile. Then, like a driver's test, people are evaluated on their parenting before receiving something to counteract so that they can reproduce and raise. A possible form of evaluation include raising a puppy or similar.

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